John Frieda "Go Blonder Controlled Lightening Spray" review and a personal update

When I got my Allure Beauty Box, there was a bottle of this John Frieda "Go Blonder Controlled Lightening Spray" in it.  I know a girl from MakeupGeek uses it so I asked her a what she thought of it and she says she loves it.  I had my hair dyed in the beginning of May and my regrowth was really starting to bother me so I figured it was a good time to test this stuff out.

What their website says about it:
"Versatile, patent-pending formula with citrus and chamomile works with styling heat to gradually lighten and brighten for a natural-looking, blonder blonde. Contains thermo-protectant. Patent-pending technology combines fixative and conditioning polymers that retain hydrogen peroxide, allowing for control of lightening. Visibly lightens in 3-5 uses."

So here's my hair before I washed it.  This is probably 4 weeks of regrowth

After one use:

After 3 uses:

As you can see, there's a visible difference between the before and 3 uses picture.  The product says to be used with heat so I didn't use this every time I washed my hair because I don't always blowdry my hair.  I have used it more times but my hair doesn't seem to be getting any lighter than the 3 uses picture.  

I think this product is great for dragging out the amount of time I can go between colorings.  Is it light enough for me?  No.  But it does a good job of making my regrowth way less noticeable.  I'd probably start using this around 3 weeks after a coloring and then do my regular hair color at about 6 weeks.  

I'm not sure how much this product costs as it came in my beauty box but I found it for $9.70 on amazon.com.  So would I buy this product?  Probably.  I'm not in love with it but I definitely like that after 7 weeks of not coloring my hair, it still doesn't look trashy (which it definitely would without this product).  

Now the next part of this post is going to be a personal update about the death of my nephew just in case you're not into the personal stuff.  

*Edit: Just so you know, so I don't feel like I'm lying, I have edited and deleted parts of this post.  Things from this post were taken out of context and flipped around and some things were too personal so I deleted them or edited them.*

Man oh man has this been one tough week.  I was in no way prepared for this.  I feel like I don't even know where to start.  Here's his obituary.

Asiah Maxam
His father's family put the obituary together.  My sister-in-law was upset that first of all, his middle name is incorrect (I guess he has too many kids to keep them all straight.  He has 7 children by 2 different women).  His middle name is actually Vincent.  She was also upset that my name wasn't in there next to my husband's and that his Uncle Alex wasn't mentioned either.

I was able to print out the pictures that I had of Asiah and give them to my sister-in-law.  We also got her a gold locket that has footprints on the front and on the back it says "it was then that I carried you" from that "Footprints" poem with a picture of him inside.  She cried and cried when I gave her the pictures.  The picture of her with Asiah is the only picture she has of the two of them.  It makes me so glad that I took it.

The funeral was on Friday morning.  It was awful.  Just as they had everyone sit to get the service started, the 2 1/2 year old ran up toward the front.  His dad grabbed him and picked him up to carry him to the back.  When he picked him up, he saw his baby brother and he started crying and reaching for him yelling, "But the baby!  The baby!"  It was HORRIBLE!  The most heart-wrenching thing I could ever imagine.

My mother-in-law I think is having a nervous breakdown.  She hasn't stopped crying and she keeps having convulsions.  She feels like she can't be in that house but because there's a rumor going around that they're going to kill Jamie as soon as she leaves (because the man who did this to her baby has a record of child molestation and they say she knew about it so they're calling her a baby killer), she feels like she can't leave.  So she definitely needs some prayer.  Please please pray for her.

We left last night and on the ride home, my husband called his mom to check on her and she told him how proud she is of him.  Which is something he's been waiting to hear for a long time.  She said, "I'm sorry I don't ever send anything to your Briana but I know that she's taken care of and these kids aren't.  Everything I have I give to these kids because I know yours has everything she needs."  She told him also that he's the kind of man she wishes she married because he stands behind his wife and daughter and provides everything we need.

But being home has been tough too.  When we were in New York we were running around and trying to be there for everyone else.  Being home, we've had a bit to sit still and think.  It's so so sad.  I'm so glad that someone invented waterproof mascara or this whole week would have been the biggest mess.

If you took time to read this whole thing, thank you.  I'm sorry.  I just needed to get some of this stuff out.  And I may have to vent some more on a later post.  This has been way too much.  He was a baby.  And he was murdered.  Who could kill someone who has no means of defense??  He's a sick, sick man.  He hasn't been charged with the murder yet and I'm not sure why seeing as they have DNA evidence against him.  And then I think about the boys again (who asked if they could come to our house with us) and it makes me want to cry.  I just can't handle it.  It's too much.

Hopefully I'll be able to get back to makeup posts soon.  I just really didn't wear much makeup this past week because I knew I'd just cry it off.  Thanks guys.  Thank you so much.